Last fall I attended a meeting where a talk was given by
music composer Philip Glass. As he discussed
his career and collaborations with various musicians, he made this provocative observation
about those that turned out to be most successful. “The key to a successful collaboration is
trust. Not respect, but trust. Trust is
much harder than respect.”
I think Mr. Glass is on to something. Most of us tend to give respect liberally
because it is not a limited resource. For
example, we feel respect for people we admire because of their abilities,
skill, or achievements. Conversely, those
we are not so fond of can still invoke our respect because of their position or
the authority they possess. We can even have respect for inanimate things like
the power of technology or laws that we need to comply with.
Trust is different.
We can’t trust things like laws or technology because those things don’t
trust us back. The only thing that can
be trusted is another person. Trust is
holistic, a collection of feelings that culminate in how we regard an
individual or group. It binds our relationships
together and grows only with continued use.
The trust we have in someone is comprised of our impressions
of their character and competence.
Surprisingly, it doesn’t take long for us to create those
impressions. Several studies have shown
that people can size up competence and trustworthiness in as little as a
quarter of a second based on appearance alone.
Of course more accurate impressions evolve over longer periods of time
and with more experiences. We trust
people who trust us, who we perceive to be driven by something other than
self-gain, that exhibit willpower and self-control, that get the results we
need, and that communicate to us with clarity and resolve.
All of these trust factors play out in our organization
every day. Each of us has an opinion of
how much we trust the leaders of the Ministry, our leaders in the Springfield
Communities, the people we report to, or the people we work with. That opinion is dependent on how we are kept
in the know, the tolerance and forgiveness we receive for the mistakes we make,
the credibility of the words people use, the reliability of their actions, and
their openness to our influence. We may
respect their authority or who they are, but trust is built on experiences with
them, how we think about them when they are not in our presence.
You may have a lack of trust in various groups
or people within our organization. It is
understandable. We have gone through
tremendous amounts of change during hard times.
Several difficult decisions were made that created disagreement and at
times a loss of control. Of course
apologies and reasons for these events don’t forge trust, only time and new experiences
can do that. But trust is necessary. It has been said that every government must
have food, weapons and trust. If it
can’t provide all three, weapons should go first, then food. Trust must be guarded to the end. Without trust we cannot stand. As it is for governments, so it must be for
us. We must rebuild trust that has been
lost and become better and stronger in the process of doing so.
Mr. Glass was right.
Trust is much harder than respect but we are not helpless to regain it. Please help us. I respect the work that you do and trust that you can help move Mercy forward. You may have ideas I need to hear. If so, email me or reach out on Twitter
at @DrScarrow.
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